We all love to solve a problem, find a resolution, forge a way forward, get things sorted, relieve our or someone else's suffering, and move through to the other side of difficulties. But sometimes, often in fact, life just isn't that simple. Sometimes there is no quick relief. There are things that are not going away any time soon, if at all. And that's hard to live with. It's a tough one to accept, to get our head and heart around, and to navigate. It sucks! I wonder what s

I often think that hope is one of the most powerful forces on earth. Something I like to ponder, that gives me hope, is that there are good things that are going to come into our lives that we have no idea about at the moment. At the end of the year I always look back through my year: things I've done, things that have happened, etc. And I think about the year ahead: things I am aware of that are coming up, and what I might like to do or need to do, things it would be good t

From popping bubble wrap to a walk along a beach - there are many things in life that have therapeutic value, but counselling is quite...

Does the weekend pass you by? I don't know about you but my weekend can very easily become consumed with 'jobs' that need doing, and by...

There are many wonderful values out there, but we don't necessarily share the same ones with others around us, or put the same level of...

When life throws struggles and discouragements our way and things are not all plain sailing, it's easy to lose confidence, feel rubbish about ourselves and get a bit stuck. The temptation to give up, stick with what we know and not risk discomfort or failure can be great. Thomas Edison, who invented the lightbulb, when asked by a reporter 'How did it feel to fail so many times' replied, 'I have not failed, I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.' When we're learning we a

If you've got to the stage of reading this (unless you're a friend or family member faithfully reading my blogs; in which case, a massive...

There’s certain things I do that I always saw as strengths. It came as a real shock to me when I realised that whilst there was a lot that was good about those things, they also had an unhealthy element to them. They went beyond being good qualities, to leaving me worn out, pressured and finding worth in what I did or how I did it rather than in who I was. DRIVERS From an early age when we can understand what is approved and disapproved of by others, we attempt to adapt to th

I tend to be quite open about whether I'm OK or not and how I'm feeling or have felt, whether that's in person or on social media. But...

I had a 35 minute walk home and I cried all the way. I was 18 and I'd just been to pick up my A-level results.

We all have a relationship with anger, whether we like it or think it's an issue for us or not. There's certainly been some things on...

I was scrolling through social media when something lovely that someone had posted completely did my head in. Have you ever been there?

Have you ever had a big 'aha' moment? A few years ago I went on a two-hour workshop about a subject I knew little about and it was the...